The questions to ask yourself before you... (完整版)
n Fall in love
n Move in together
n Get married
n Have a baby
n Split up
Before you fall for him…ask yourself…
o Am I myself when I’m with him
o Do I love him or do I love the ideas of him?
o Is he good enough for me?
o Do my friends and family like him?
o Do we have shared long-term goals and values?
o How important is a relationship to me at this point in my life?
o Is he ready for commitment>
o Am I ready for forever?
Before you fall for him…ask yourself…
o Am I myself when I’m with him
o Do I love him or do I love the ideas of him?
o Is he good enough for me?
o Do my friends and family like him?
o Do we have shared long-term goals and values?
o How important is a relationship to me at this point in my life?
o Is he ready for commitment>
o Am I ready for forever?
Before you move in with him…ask yourself…
o Am I rushing this?
o Am I doing it out of want, or need?
o Do I love and accept him as he is and vice versa?
o Am I ready to always have him in my space?
o What’s his financial track record?
o Am I relaxed enough to reveal all my flaws?
o How do I protect myself financially if we split up?
o Where will we live?
o How will we merge our tastes and our lives under one roof?
Before you marry him…ask yourself…
o Will we grow together or apart?
o Do I like, as well as love, him?
o Do we make each other happy?
o Can we put up with each other’s relatives
o Who’s going to be the breadwinner? How would we deal with one or the other being the sole provider?
o Am I happy waking up next to him for the rest of my life?
o Are we going to pool our finances or split them?
Before you have a baby…ask yourself…
o Have we been through tough times and come out the other side?
o Am I being realistic or idealistic about having a baby?
o Do I just want a baby or is it his baby I want?
o Am I ready for my life to change forever?
o Who will stay at home with the baby?
o Can we afford it?
o Am I ready for my body to change?
o How committed will he be to raising the baby with me?
o Do we share similar ideas about parenting?
o Is he flexible? Will we be able to negotiate “me” time for both of us?
o Is he man enough for someone else to be the centre of my universe?
Before you split up…ask yourself…
o Do I really feel there’s nothing to save in this relationship?
o Am I expecting too much?
o Is this relationship history repeating itself?
o If I do want to save this relationship, am I willing to put the effort in?
o What about mutual friends? Will I see them after we split?
o Can we still be friends or do I want a clean break?
o Can I cope with seeing him with another woman – or me being with another man?
o Am I looking for someone new – do I want to be single for a while?
廢了好半天終于看完了，唯一的結果就是增加了對婚姻的恐懼感，Split up并不是我想要的結果，我希望每一對戀人經歷了前四個過程后，最后的結局都是執子之手與子偕老
所以很多人說結婚一定需要衝動!! 執子之手與子偕老很美...但是現在的社會漸漸的不這麼美了...
You are in which stage?
My stage? BEFORE fall in love~ haha
be caution,don't fall too deep. deeper you fall, harder you are.
Thanks for ur advice~
Want to forget to love however deeper
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