揭秘外国女人(之五)
法国女人点评中国男人性能力
采访/整理:何艳
采访地点:法国巴黎
采访语言:法语。中文采访记录未经被采访者审核。
被采访者基本情况:
年龄:22岁 身高:168cm 身材:很胖/比较胖/中等/苗条/偏瘦
中文水平:完美/很好/比较好/一般/比较差/很差/不会说
用中国的人标准来评价其漂亮程度:很漂亮/比较漂亮/一般/比较不漂亮/很不漂亮
和中国男友目前的状态:分居两地
中国居住时间:2005年8月至2006年7月
问:对于只有极少数中国男人有外国女朋友这一现象,我们调查了中国男人,他们有以下几种解释,分别是:个子太矮、英语不够好、不够富有、身体不够强壮、外国女人歧视中国男人(种族歧视)、外国女人都有艾滋病、中国女人比外国女人漂亮。你认为他们的解释有道理吗?
答:就我个人来说,我承认不会去喜欢一个瘦小、难看、贫穷的男人,无论他是中国人还是法国人,这个标准与国籍无关。也许会有女人说,她们只看男人的精神世界或灵魂,其余的都可以忽略。但如果我这样说,就是撒谎。我喜欢长得好看,受过良好教育,喜欢运动的男人,这是事实。
我想就算是中国女人也不会去喜欢个小、难看、贫穷、没有文化的中国男人,所以如果中国男人用这些理由来解释,我认为完全没有道理。
至于外国女人歧视中国男人,我觉得要分开来说。那些只和本国人一起出去,完全不进入中国人生活的外国女人的确有歧视中国男人的倾向,因为她们不了解、不认识中国男人,并且也不想去了解和认识;另一类外国女人,就是我说的热爱中国文化,很想进入中国人生活的女人,她们不可能歧视中国男人。所以这也是个不成立的辩解。
至于说到外国女人都有艾滋病,那我不得不提醒一下,中国是继非洲之后,患艾滋病人数最多的国家。而在法国,我们有大量关于预防、抵制艾滋病的运动,我们知道它的危害,我们害怕,因此我们知道控制风险,采取预防措施。所以,如果中国男人真的害怕这一点,他完全可以在性行为中采取保护措施,或者直接请对方去做个检测,总之有很多办法。
最后一个解释我认为也是不成立的。总有比法国女人漂亮的中国女人,也总有不漂亮的中国女人,就像任何一个国家的女人。
说个有趣的现象,当我和我的中国男朋友在上海街头看到中法情侣时,大多数情况下,我都觉得那个法国男人难看,而他则觉得那个中国女人也难看。一对漂亮的,散发魅力中法情侣在我眼中是罕见的,原因是绝大多数中法情侣间,没有一种精神上的密切联系和互动,而有魅力的情侣或夫妇是因为拥有这种精神上的默契,而变得有魅力。
问:在中国有一个广为流传的说法,那就是中国男人的性能力要比西方男人差。你同意这种说法吗?
答:就我个人来说,无论在法国还是在中国,我选择男人的时候,从来不把他的性能力放在首位,对我而言,这不是很重要。然后,我觉得中国男人和法国男人在这方面没有区别,在法国有的男人很擅长做爱,有的不是,在中国是一样的。我找到一个中国男人很擅长,所以我没有遇到这方面的问题。
此外,我认为女人在做爱中获得的快乐并不取决于男人性器官的大小,不是尺寸决定问题,对于女人来说心理因素更重要。
我个人从来没有觉得中国男人的性能力不行,实践也证明不是这样。他是个非常细心、细致的人,表现在各个方面,所以在性生活中,他也是个很关注女人感受的人,他很会做爱。如果拿他和我的法国男朋友作比较,我觉得我和他做爱时获得的快感更大更强烈,因为我们从肉体到精神都非常相爱,相爱的感觉增加了女人在做爱中获得的快感。
我敢保证,如果你去问其他有中国男朋友的外国女人,他的性能力怎么样,她的回答一定是肯定的。因为对于我们来说,性和谐是伴侣生活中不可缺少的部分,一个外国女人如果选择了中国男人,那肯定是对他的性能力持满意态度的。
我认为中国男人关键是要有自信,一旦有了自信,他们就会在性上表现得很好。中国男人的优势是细心,所以只要他们照着女人想要的方向去努力,就一定能在性上面取悦所有女人。
在法国,很多女人抱怨他们的男人在性生活中对她们的关注不够,没有或很少前戏,只知道让自己满足等。我认为中国男人在这方面会做得比很多法国男人好。
特别通告:
有大量网友来信索取上次采访的完整记录。由于我收到的Email数以千计,我需要一段时间才能发给大家。不过,请大家放心的是,我迟早肯定会发给你们。
再一次谢谢大家对我们研究的关注和兴趣。
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我是一个美籍华人, 我的中文不太好:
I read some of those comments, and I have to say, their take on this whole thing is completely ignorant and disappointing, but I am not surprised.
A lot of people are attacking the professor because they think his studies are "low class" and borderlining pornographic. This is completely ignorant. Zhang is a professor of psychology, and human sexuality is a HUGE topic in pyschology, so if you are gonna bash sexual topics, you might as well go bash Freud and Jung, because their studies of psychology are largely based on sexuality as well. This is reflective of how oppressed sexual expression is in China, anything related to sex is considered porn, and "low class". With this mentality, it is not a surprise that Asian men are emasculated little bitches, and Asian women are all cum catchers for the white man.
I think to even begin addressing the IR disparities, we have to address the oppression of sexual expression in Asia. This is absolutely disgusting. I don't even understand why the Communists are doing this, because it doesn't really help them to maintain in power. Also, I really hope that the Asian men starting hitting on the white women or whatever foreign women that they see in Asia. Because chances are, if the woman is willing to tour or work in Asia, she is not gonna be that racist against Asians, and she would more than likely welcome sexual advances from Asian men. In this respect, the native Asian men have an advantage over the overseas Asians, because a random white woman in America has a much greater chance that she is against dating Asians than a white woman that is living in Asia.
The few times that I've interacted with white girls in Beijing, their responses were generally very positive, much more so than American girls, but I dunno if that's because they were just happy to meet someone who speaks good English. I also read some of those Chinese expat communities sometimes, and it seems like the women that are in Asia are all generally really really lonely and eager for social interactions. There were tons of posts from women opening asking to meet other people that are in her area. There is also a saying about how China is heaven for white men, but hell for white women. This is disgusting, and I am very disappointed. Right now with China, foreigners are concentrated mostly in Beijing, Shanghai, and Hong Kong. I have absolutely zero hope for Shanghai men because they are all dickless idiots, and but I do hope Hong Kong and Beijing men can step up their games and just stop thinking that white women are some unattainable shit or something. The French woman interviewed once again said that she thinks Chinese men foremost need to be more confident. If anything, I see that as an open invitation for Chinese men to hit on her.
There were also some comments like, "Nono, we don't like those foreign women, they are hairy and smell!" That's again fucking retarded. Lu Xun addressed this mentality in his work "the story of ah-Q". It is called "spiritual victory" that a lot of Chinese faggots are prone to resort to, when they are in a position of humiliation or defeat, they'll make up some bullshit excuse and pretend to have spiritual victory. I know for a fact that most Chinese men do find white women attractive, and even more so than Chinese women, but they just don't think they'll ever score with one, so they would rather go slander white women. It is very self-defeating. Asian guys need to stop with their blind loyalty and praising of Asian women, it's only gonna fuel the whorientals because they think they will always have Asian guys to fall back on.
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Re:揭秘外国女人(之五)
80s中后, 90s后在外留学的中国男女在交友方面没差距, 也没那么什么自卑的
Re:揭秘外国女人(之五)
80中后,90后的中国留学生在国际交友方面几乎没有性别差异
Re:揭秘外国女人(之五)
80中后,90后的中国留学生在国际交友方面几乎没有性别差异
Re:揭秘外国女人(之五)
80中后,90后的中国留学生在国际交友方面几乎没有性别差异
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各位不觉得外国男生的话特别多吗, 而且声音特别大吗,相对中国男生沉默的优雅与自内心绅士风度, 在国际上还是很有竞争力的