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揭秘外国女人(之六)

我为什么嫁给中国丈夫?



 

 


 

采访/整理:曲玉萍

采访地点:上海

采访语言:英语。中文采访记录未经被采访者审核。

 

被采访者基本情况:

年龄34   身高165cm  身材很胖/比较胖/中等/苗条/偏瘦 

中文水平完美/很好/比较好/一般/比较差/很差/不会说

用中国的人标准来评价其漂亮程度:很漂亮/比较漂亮/一般/比较不漂亮/很不漂亮

和中国丈夫目前的状态:离婚

中国居住时间:8

 

 

1. 如果中国男人去追一个外国女人,你认为他的成功的可能性有多大?为什么?

 

如果他非常有趣,那么他的成功率为 95%

 

如果他非常帅,那么他的成功率为 85%

 

如果他非常有钱,那么他的成功率为50%

 

如果他又有趣又帅又有钱,那么他的成功率为100%

 

如果他又不帅又无趣又没钱,那么他的失败率为100%

 

对于西方女人来说,外表长得帅或者有钱,当然也重要,但是,精神方面的交流以及共鸣更容易让我们动心。我当时之所以会爱上我的中国丈夫,就是因为他在我情绪最低落的时候,给了我莫大的安慰和帮助。

 

2.中国男人给你的总的印象是什么?如果用几个形容词来形容中国男人,你的形容词是什么?为什么?

 

羞涩、友善、不主动(除了付帐外)、孝顺。

 

3.与你本国的男性比较,中国男人有哪些优点?又有哪些缺点?

 

比起比利时男人来说,中国男人更顾家,更节俭,能帮着做家务,对自己的老婆和小孩都特别好,也非常孝顺父母。

只有一个问题,中国男人吃饭的声音太响,尤其是吃面条的时候,很可怕。我不知道年轻一代会不会好一点,因为可能现在文化交流多了的缘故,但是我接触的三十多岁以上的很多中国男人(当然也包括很多中国女人),会在吃饭的时候发出很大的声响。我记得以前和我中国丈夫被比利时朋友请去吃西餐,他喝汤的时候我恨不得躲到桌子底下去,他还奇怪我干吗拿脚踢他。

4.他一开始吸引你、打动你的是什么?

我得承认,他的长相在西方人眼睛里,是非常帅的,他脸部的轮廓非常清晰,眼睛很迷人,身材也很棒。但我想,如果他并不是这么帅,我当时也会爱上他的。因为,一个年轻的女孩子在陌生的国家,心情很低落的时候有个男人来诚恳地安慰你帮助你,很少有人不会爱上这个男人的。

5.在中国有一个广为流传的说法,那就是中国男人的性能力要比西方男人差。你同意这种说法吗?

从我的经验看,我不认为他们的性能力差,但是我觉得可能他们的性技巧有问题。我的中国丈夫要比我更热衷于性,但是他更在意自己的生理需要,却不知道怎么照顾到我的感受,在前戏方面显的很没有情调很懒惰。这方面,我在欧洲时候的男朋友显然要在行得多。

6.那你们离婚的主要原因是什么?

因为生活在一起后,因为两个人的文化差异,很多事情没有沟通好,比如,我们争吵后,如果是我的错,我会在冷静下来后道歉,但他从来不会,他错了他会一直保持沉默。这样,矛盾就越来越大,交流也越来越不好了,你就可以想象我们为什么无法继续了。

 

相关文章 :


1. 揭秘外国女人(之五)http://zhangjiehai.blog.ifeng.com/user3/zhangjiehai/archives/2006/336305.html

 

2. 你看,你看那些外国男人丑陋的脸 http://blog.ifeng.com/user3/zhangjiehai/archives/2006/140126.html

 

3. 典型学者的非典型研究 http://blog.ifeng.com/user3/zhangjiehai/archives/2006/132559.html

 

4. 中国男人精神问题白皮书 http://blog.ifeng.com/user3/zhangjiehai/archives/2006/132417.html

 

5. 返回首页 http://blog.ifeng.com/user3/zhangjiehai/index.html

 

 

 

 

 

 

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  • 凤凰网友 [2006-10-19 10:19:00 PM]

    Re:揭秘外国女人(之六)

    呵呵,感谢您所做的!

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  • 凤凰网友 [2006-10-21 12:53:00 PM]

    Re:揭秘外国女人(之六)

    谢谢张博士,但是你这工作好像进展的很慢的,一个月才有一次采访,是不是经费的问题?

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  • 凤凰网友 [2006-10-21 03:18:00 PM]

    Re:揭秘外国女人(之六)

    无可救药的无聊博士!!!

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  • 凤凰网友 [2006-10-21 07:33:00 PM]

    Re:揭秘外国女人(之六)

    这个30多岁男人老了点,年轻的中国男人基本没这些毛病了。

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  • 凤凰网友 [2006-10-24 12:01:00 AM]

    Re:揭秘外国女人(之六)

    谁在玩弄我的感情
     

    我愤怒但我不自卑--致张博士

    http://blog.sina.com.cn/u/5892e54501000565

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  • Lucy [2006-11-02 05:40:00 PM]

    Re:揭秘外国女人(之六)

    尊重张博士的劳动成果

    每个人都可以持有自己的观点,因为意识受环境的局限.

    谩骂只是不成熟的表现

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  • 凤凰网友 [2006-11-07 03:39:00 PM]

    Re:揭秘外国女人(之六)

    看来文化差异是主要的。中国男子要想获得西方女子的芳心,除了不自卑,勇敢地示爱外,更应当了解对方的生活习惯、双方的文化差异,学会一些对方国家男子的风度、修养。

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  • 凤凰网友 [2006-11-08 10:52:00 AM]

    Re:揭秘外国女人(之六)

    我是一个美籍华人, 我的中文不太好:

    I read some of those comments, and I have to say, their take on this whole thing is completely ignorant and disappointing, but I am not surprised.

    A lot of people are attacking the professor because they think his studies are "low class" and borderlining pornographic. This is completely ignorant. Zhang is a professor of psychology, and human sexuality is a HUGE topic in pyschology, so if you are gonna bash sexual topics, you might as well go bash Freud and Jung, because their studies of psychology are largely based on sexuality as well. This is reflective of how oppressed sexual expression is in China, anything related to sex is considered porn, and "low class". With this mentality, it is not a surprise that Asian men are emasculated little bitches, and Asian women are all cum catchers for the white man.

    I think to even begin addressing the IR disparities, we have to address the oppression of sexual expression in Asia. This is absolutely disgusting. I don't even understand why the Communists are doing this, because it doesn't really help them to maintain in power. Also, I really hope that the Asian men starting hitting on the white women or whatever foreign women that they see in Asia. Because chances are, if the woman is willing to tour or work in Asia, she is not gonna be that racist against Asians, and she would more than likely welcome sexual advances from Asian men. In this respect, the native Asian men have an advantage over the overseas Asians, because a random white woman in America has a much greater chance that she is against dating Asians than a white woman that is living in Asia.

    The few times that I've interacted with white girls in Beijing, their responses were generally very positive, much more so than American girls, but I dunno if that's because they were just happy to meet someone who speaks good English. I also read some of those Chinese expat communities sometimes, and it seems like the women that are in Asia are all generally really really lonely and eager for social interactions. There were tons of posts from women opening asking to meet other people that are in her area. There is also a saying about how China is heaven for white men, but hell for white women. This is disgusting, and I am very disappointed. Right now with China, foreigners are concentrated mostly in Beijing, Shanghai, and Hong Kong. I have absolutely zero hope for Shanghai men because they are all dickless idiots, and but I do hope Hong Kong and Beijing men can step up their games and just stop thinking that white women are some unattainable shit or something. The French woman interviewed once again said that she thinks Chinese men foremost need to be more confident. If anything, I see that as an open invitation for Chinese men to hit on her.

    There were also some comments like, "Nono, we don't like those foreign women, they are hairy and smell!" That's again fucking retarded. Lu Xun addressed this mentality in his work "the story of ah-Q". It is called "spiritual victory" that a lot of Chinese faggots are prone to resort to, when they are in a position of humiliation or defeat, they'll make up some bullshit excuse and pretend to have spiritual victory. I know for a fact that most Chinese men do find white women attractive, and even more so than Chinese women, but they just don't think they'll ever score with one, so they would rather go slander white women. It is very self-defeating. Asian guys need to stop with their blind loyalty and praising of Asian women, it's only gonna fuel the whorientals because they think they will always have Asian guys to fall back on.

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  • 凤凰网友 [2006-11-17 05:02:00 AM]

    Re:揭秘外国女人(之六)

    Hi, that ABC guy who is above me, I found your points are really interesting and impressive. Could you please leave me your email?

    My email is: samuel990113@gmail.com

    Just contact me and I hope we could talk more about this topic. Good Luck!

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  • 凤凰网友 [2006-11-20 03:06:00 PM]

    Re:揭秘外国女人(之六)

    Hi guys above me, i'm interesting in your topic, i want to talk about my feeling.

    my emai is robertzhang1983@yahoo.com

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